Are you overly concerned about what other people think about you? Do you find yourself worrying about what others say about you? While it is natural to seek the approval of others, those who have a high self-esteem, and are self-confident, are able to discount the negative opinions of others and to remain assured of their own self-worth.
Focusing on building your self-confidence can be made easier when you keep these five things in mind the next time you find yourself worried about what someone else believes about you
- Quit Guessing what others might be thinking
What other people think of you is none of your business. You can cause yourself much unnecessary suffering when you waste your energy imagining that others may judge you about or how they may intend you harm. You are projecting your fears upon them but you truly have no idea what anyone else is thinking. Avoid making any assumptions about what others may be thinking. Train yourself to avoid making any assumptions about why other people choose to do or to say something or why they choose to not do or to not say anything. Such an energy drain! Focus on the intent and outcome that you are wanting to achieve in the situation, with what you say or do and understand it will be whatever it will be. Let it go!
2. Live your own life
There is no way your life is “supposed” to be lived. There are no “authorities” outside yourself appointed to judge the way you live your life. Quit taking responsibility to please everyone else and that is in itself an impossible task, so let it go. Your responsibility is to yourself, respecting yourself, living your life. Be of service to humanity, but never be anyone’s doormat. Set appropriate boundaries. Live your own life full out. Live boldly with vision, purpose, and commitment. Establish your own life purpose and goals, and be loyal to yourself. Value yourself and treat yourself with compassion.
3. Make your own choices
Your life plan and goals are truly what matters most because it is your life to live. Often other people have ideas about what our choices could be like our parents, our family, our friends, our spouse or others which could include your church or boss. It is important to create your own plans for your life, you can take in others points of view and in the end make sure it is what you are desiring and wanting for your life. Other people are merely spectators of your life and they are not living it. It is truly important that you make your own choices and take responsibility to create it and you get to live it every day. Cherish your life no one can live it for you, it is your responsibility and your creation.
4. Value your own opinions
Please stop considering other peoples opinions, or wishes, to be more important than your own? This is totally false. In fact, no one else’s opinions carry any weight whatsoever in how you live your life? Make your life choices sincerely and deliberately. Make choices that are based in what you truly feel you desire and in in line with your values. Then have confidence in your own voice and opinions. You can listen to others, learn from others but form your own opinions that feel right to you. Inside of you your heart knows what is right or wrong for you, pay attention.
5. Choose to associate mostly with positive people who support you!
You can’t completely avoid negative people, there may be a few negative people in your extended family or where you work. You can however make the choice to limit your exposure to negative people, and to cultivate friends and acquaintances who have a positive outlook on life, who share many of your essential values, and who value you as a person. People who lift you up, make you laugh and appreciate you. People you like to be around. When we are around people like that most of the time, we have more enjoyment and fulfillment in our lives.
